Mom’s are Life Givers, Warrior Makers, World Changers

—- 1 Timothy 2:13-15 —–

As part of the curse, women suffer great pain in childbirth. However, that pain doesn’t end when the child is born, it is but the beginning. Many women are deceived in believing raising their children should not be so very difficult as long as the right things are done. They quickly discover how wrong their idealized view of parenting was.

Mothering is not intended to be easy. It is a fight for the souls of our children.¬†In no other place is the good fight so evident in the life of a mother than in her¬†home, raising her children to love the Lord. She is fighting a battle on so many¬†fronts, that only our Omni-powerful God could make her an over-comer against¬†such odds. She is fighting against herself and all the fleshly desires she has,¬†against the will of her children to rebel and sin, and against the tide of a world¬†ruled by the fallen prince, satan. A prince that parades around as an angel of¬†light, deceiving our children and the world with empty promises of money,¬†power, fame, fun, ease…

Let us reconsider the role of dear mom. She is a warrior who is¬†responsible for training the next generation of warriors. She is the one teaching¬†them by her example how to fight and win battles just as Jesus did while on earth.¬†Hers is the example they will learn in how to treat their siblings, love their¬†daddy and others, work, ethics, habits (quiet time, prayer, Bible reading and study…)

Mom is more than a homemaker, she is a life-changer. Men, we must take her for granted no longer. Our role is to equip and empower her in ways only God, His Word, and His body can reveal and sustain. Ours is the opportunity to remind this warrior princess that she is so much more than a cook, maid, and babysitter. Her value is incalculable this side of Heaven, but our role is to help her discover and live up to the great calling placed upon her life. She has been anointed like no other. She is the one God chose to bring life into this world, and childbirth is just the beginning of that process; not the end.

Blessings,

Shawn Maguire, LPC

Parenting on Purpose

One of the greatest struggles for me has been consistent and purposeful parenting. Not parenting out of my emotions in the moment or not just come up with a temporary, quick fix goes against I guess what I know and what comes so natural to me.

Remember how I said my husband was a good father a few days ago? Well, this is where my husband completes me. :) He studied this in college and worked with children in therapeutic foster care for 4 years at St. Anthony hospital before I even met him, and for the last 9 years in private practice, he has helped many many couples in the parenting department. And besides the academics, he just really has a God-given ability to think so clearly even in the throws of a toddler tantrum or in the heat of a fight between siblings. He thinks forward and is able to not let his emotions get involved.

The Lord has done such a work in my life regarding parenting (although I still struggle a lot) that now I am feeling a desire to share from time to time what has helped me. We approach our parenting from a Biblical perspective first and then we have used other resources over the years, that I am compiling a list of and will hopefully share soon.

I did want to share this little video glimpse into how my husband dealt with an “issue” last night¬†with Hayden. The issue was Hayden not wanting to do his chores for the last couple of days and me¬†calling Shawn to cry to him at work because I was so frustrated. Last night I just sat back and admired. Please excuse the poor video quality and I wish I would have gotten the whole thing on video.

Basically, Shawn went through Hayden’s chore list and gave him a “solution” to every chore¬†that he no longer wanted to do. Genius.

FYI– Hayden’s chores are age appropriate. For example, he is required to do “laundry”¬†twice a week. This consists of him switching the clothes from the washer to the dryer and¬†then taking the clothes out of the dryer to the couch for me to fold. I promise you we are¬†not running a sweat shop. :)